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18. September 2012


Women of One Fabric Workshop Participants  in NY, Sept 16, 2012

9/11 Women Refuse to Hate

Fifteen women shared with us the journey they have been on since September 11, 2001, when they lost a husband or child to the attacks. They spoke of the difficulties of having to mourn in public, because the events through which they lost their loved ones were not only a personal, but also a public catastrophe.

The most remarkable feature of this meeting was the complete absence of hatred, desire for revenge, and demonization of the Muslim communities at home or abroad. On the contrary, the women shared their experiences with us: Cindy M., for example, told us how she asked a man who had come to her house to give her an estimate for renovation work to leave when he started speaking badly of Muslims, and particularly the Mosque that was supposed to be built near Ground Zero. When he asked her why she wanted him to leave, she responded: “This is exactly the kind of talk that got my husband killed.”

These women have not gotten stuck in their own stories, but now are eager to look beyond their own borders to see how women around the world are dealing with the ever-present challenges of violent extremism in countries such as Pakistan, Yemen, and Mali.

“We are very aware that although 9/11 was the worst day of our lives, it was only one day. How are the women holding up in countries where terrorism is a daily threat, where the children fear that their parents might not come home every day?” The women expressed this sentiment with one voice. Several participants also underscored the fact that while they held Osama Bin Laden and Mohammad Atta responsible for the attacks, they recognized that the mothers of the 9/11 hijackers also lost their children, and that they saw commonalities in their grief.

We, the participants of the SAVE/Tuesday’s Children ‘Women Of One Fabric’ workshop, state:

“Women must be aware of their power, potential, and responsibility to educate others against violence and extremism and to stop the killing and hatred. We are women of one fabric, and we must stand together, united, to make this a more peaceful world for all.

Terrorists around the world forge a contract with death. We embrace life. Our loss should never be your loss.”

SAVE provides space to groups of credible voices, such as these family members of victims of 9/11, to exchange their experiences and viewpoints, and to send a message to other women around the world who are also struggling with the consequences of terrorism.

This article was originally posted in The Word on Women (Reuters TrustLaw Foundation).


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